SACRAMENTO & ROCKLIN, CA

Couples Therapy

Improving Intimacy, Connection, & Conflict Resolution

“Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow; a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them- we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.”
- Brené Brown

In a relationship, there may come a time when you begin to notice a gradual loss of connection. Perhaps you may feel like you are living as " roommates" with little in common. Previous joys become uninteresting and boring. Minor issues become significant flaws. Sharing experiences becomes extremely uncomfortable and frustrating. You may also experience remorse and guilt for causing harm to your relationship by not keeping your promise to each other (that is, for letting yourself and your partner down).

Healing Den Counseling is a place where you can get help with resentment, frustration, avoidance, sadness, and loneliness in your relationship. If you have reached a place where you have become stuck and need to work on reducing frequent agreements, enhancing your emotional and intimate connection, or recovering from earlier trauma or betrayal, then we would be glad to support you.

We believe:

Long-term relationships come with obstacles that might feel overwhelming at times. Relationship problems frequently present possibilities for growth, learning, and self-awareness that are unavailable through other means.
There are concrete techniques that may be developed to help you and your partner break the painful cycle in which you frequently find yourself.
It's critical to learn how to repair the harm that conflict has caused in your relationship.
Gaining insight into your couple’s strengths and limitations, as well as determining the source of these dynamics, can enable you to make improvements and connections that were previously unavailable.
Your interpersonal skills influence your happiness and growth in all areas of life, particularly in family relationships.
Relationships must be maintained. It is critical to nurture and create opportunities for couples to interact, enjoy, and relax.

The Gottman Method

In couples therapy, there is a unique, evidence-based approach known as the Gottman Method. Couples may better understand one another's experiences, perspectives, and history by applying Gottman Method principles. The Gottman Method is primarily focused on conflict management rather than resolution. With a Gottman-trained therapist, couples can learn to be open and vulnerable about their values and goals in life, which strengthens their bond and fosters trust.

Helping individuals make positive changes, the Gottman Method eases uncomfortable conversations, removes obstacles that cause individuals to feel stuck, and creates an atmosphere that encourages empathy, respect, affection, and connection. Partners will learn about each other's backgrounds, discuss challenging topics, and learn what makes for strong partnerships. In therapy, couples learn about each other's dynamics, practice healthy relationship skills, and incorporate the therapist's guidance into their routine. This equips them to keep their relationship healthy and happy even after therapy concludes.

Our Couples Counseling sessions can help with...

Communication

For communication to be effective, partners should be open and honest about their thoughts and feelings with one another. To effectively communicate means to be able to be open to being vulnerable. It also means being interested in your partner and listening without talking over them or judging them. When a couple effectively communicates, they are more likely to understand and respect each other's desires and limitations. They can also better settle disagreements in a healthy and constructive way.

Strengthening Relationships

It takes effort, dedication, and a readiness to change and grow with your partner for any romantic relationship to make it through the highs and lows. All relationships need work, but what works for one relationship may not work for another. With therapy's help, you and your partner can build intimacy, connection, respect, and trust in your relationship.

Intimacy

Intimate relationships are defined as those in which people experience strong feelings of love, passion, or admiration for one another, as well as emotional and physical closeness. Intimacy therapy facilitates couples' honest exploration of intimacy and related issues. Its purpose is to assist clients in resolving a range of psychological and physiological issues that may be affecting their intimate satisfaction.

Relationship Trauma

There are two types of trauma: one-time events and ongoing experiences. Some of the most common types of trauma are physical, emotional, or sexual abuse, neglect, or accidents. For example, the death of a child, infidelity, a traumatic childhood event, and past unhealthy relationships, among others. It is possible that you are unaware of the triggers that provoke your partner's behavior, leading you to believe that they are behaving irrationally. This might worsen your partner's perception of being threatened, therefore reinforcing the traumatic experience. Despite the delicate nature of the situation, therapy offers hope for healing.

We are here to support your relationship.

Schedule an appointment to begin individual therapy in Rocklin, CA or virtually in California or Nevada.